“What Should We Call Girl Pain?” by Safy Hallan Farah
This is why Safy is the most brilliant writer I know. Read the whole thing. She just nails it.
Things to keep in mind
i made a thing
best fucking post tbh
knew it was haley before seeing the source b/c lions and use of “fuckbagel”
pay attention followers
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There are more charts if you click through.
people who call for a female character’s violent and misogynistic death and cannibalisation while simultaneously stanning for a male character who has actually killed and eaten people
Here’s the thing, that isn’t feminism. In fact, that is the sort of thing that feminism works to dismantle. I know that’s cliche to say perhaps, but it is true.
Part of feminism is to dismantle gender roles and gendered expectations, and part of that is breaking down this cultural myth that boys are “tough” and that its ok to diminish physical and psychological abuse against them.
The entire fact that male genital mutilation is accepted and female genital mutilation is not is the product of racism, white privilege, and gender roles that dictate that boys can “handle it” while girls certainly can’t.
|The entire fact that male genital mutilation is accepted and female genital mutilation is not is the product of racism, white privilege, and gender roles that dictate that boys can “handle it” while girls certainly can’t. Then why do feminist organizations such as NOW lobby for pediatric associations to support male circumcision, saying that the intact penis “harms” women? Circumcision is not racism or “white privilege”- it was put into practice by Dr. Kellogg as a way of suppressing male sexuality, just as female genital mutilation is used to suppress female sexuality. If feminists put half as much energy into ending male genital mutilation as they do perpetuating the wage-gap myth or lobbying for more rape laws, male genital cutting would have ended 30 years ago.
EDIT: Stop with the “Feminism is trying to *help* men!”. You’re lying through your fucking teeth. Also, I’m not a feminist, and neither is the smart fellow in the picture. We’re not your campaign slogans, we’re here to point out your double standards and female supremacist hate group.
Female supremicst hate group? Wow. Mhm.
The thing is that female circumscion and male circumscion are equally terribly, but female circumscion was far more prevalent in non-white cultures and labeled as “barbaric”, which male circumsicion is more common in white populations and thus is protected by white privilege. Its super fucked up.
I’ve personally never heard a feminist defend male circumscion. At worst, I’ve seen women who focus their efforts more specifcally on female oriented issues. And yes, that sort of sucks. Understandable, as there’s a shit ton of issues out there in the world, I suppose.
Uh, kind of have issues with the male circumcision is ‘just as bad’ as female circumcision here. Female circumcision is genital mutilation because most of the time it’s performed without anaethesia, and it’s used as a means to control female sexuality. It deters young girls from having sex and decreases their libido, oftentimes because they’re in PAIN. Because it’s the removal of the labia or the clitoris, it leads to infections, inflammations, UTIs, problems during sex and pregnancy, etc. Male circumcision doesn’t carry the same issues. A lot of people get their foreskins removed to PREVENT infections and a lot of times it’s healthier. Also, opposing male circumcision is oftentimes racist and anti-Semitic because it’s a practice amongst the Jewish community. There are sometimes complications from penile circumcision, but it’s not often and nowhere NEAR as detrimental nor prevalent as labia circumcision.
do you guys remember that one post about how men feel entitled to take up so much space and women have to deal with a lot less?
This is actually a documented thing. You always see men on the subway or tube or whatever using both armrests while women sit with their arms hunched together into their laps. That’s why I always make a point to take up at least one if not both armrests of the tube so men can be uncomfortable for once.
^ again, for all the people telling me posting this picture is complaining too much.
In my college classes (and high school too) guys were always stretching, sticking fists and elbows in my face, leaning their heads back over my desk, over my work, spreading their legs out, kicking my bag with their dirty shoes. And let’s not pretend they were in other guys’ space as much as they were in women’s.
It’s so true, this happens to me every day on the train. Same with the walking thing, women will weave out of the way whereas men just walk straight and plow down anything in their path. I always end up playing chicken with men on the sidewalk now, because I refuse to move out of their way.
I love playing chicken with dudes who hog the sidewalk. BODY CHECK! Fucking assholes.
“NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS!” FUCK OFF.
“AS A MAN, I THINK THAT…” FUCK OFF.
Men always have the same defensive bullshit to spout every time they get called out on their shit. AND IT IS BORING. They remind me of those toys where you pull a string an they have like 5 phrases they can say. Over and over and over.
same here with playing chicken, its hilarious sometimes because they get this flash of realization in their eyes that says ‘holy shit, she’s NOT going to move/??? what do????’ because THEY ARE SO USED TO EVERYONE MOVING FOR THEM
when i was younger my grandpa drew this on a piece of paper,
and he asked me how i, as the red circle, would get around the two people (black circles) if i was walking down the street.
so of course i came back with
moving out of the way for them as i walked.
he asked me if i thought men would do the same and, at the time, i did because i thought it was just common courtesy. but he told me that men would barrel straight through without giving a shit and that i should do the exact same. because i was the one walking and they were the ones in the way. so that’s exactly what i do.
Seriously, this happens so fucking often, like do people not have a concept with personal space?? (I have this problem a lot more with guys than girls.)
Usually I end up conscientiously taking up more space than they expect me to, and it’s the guys who get uncomfortable that my leg is pressing into theirs, so hah. Learn some fucking personal space kthx.
fuck i notice this whenever im on a train too
sometimes theres a spare seat between two dudes but no fucking one can sit there because their fucking asses are blocking that seat
that’s some seriously good advice from a very wise man up there
even if you plow through the guys, they act like entitled assholes. i remember one time i was walking down the sidewalk on campus and a group of basketball players were coming from the opposite direction. I moved over to one side, but refused to step off the sidewalk because LOL I’m fucking walking here!!! they apparently didn’t like that i didn’t make way for their entitled asses and started shouting at me and throwing stuff at me as i walked away. (i wasn’t hit, so i guess they aren’t that good at the sport)
but seriously, if any dude tries to give you the ‘but i need room for my junk!!’ bit, tell them that’s bullshit. a lot of guys can wear compression shorts or fit into those skinny jeans and GUESS WHAT, balls can move to accommodate and prevent squishing. and i assure you, unless the guy has a massive erection, he should be FINE putting his legs together. even then, make him do it anyways, no man should have the right to invade your space
Women have this notion that they can do whatever the hell they want and men should just e okay with it. Not all women of course, but those who are so against slut shaming and waiting until marriage are the vast majority. What women have to realize is that you reap what you sow, so if you are going outside barely dressed, you’ve got to expect sexual comments. If you don’t want it to happen, don’t dress like that! Same thing with chivalry. It’s dead because you killed it. If you want to be a strong independent woman, so be it, but you cannot expect to have men open doors for you and offer a tissue too. In this case, you can’t have your cake and eat it too.
Wearing clothing of any kind is not an invitation for sexual harassment. I expect men to be better than that. My thighs are not obscene. My middrift is not sexual. Shorts and a tank top are not an invitation to sexual harass someone. If I see a dude in swim trunks, I don’t feel obligated to wolf whistle and tell him how much I want his dick. Exposed skin is not an invitation for sex and sexual harassment.
Who even gives a shit about Chivalry? The entire notion of chivalry is deeply flawed, archaic, and sexist. It also focuses entirely on the historical relationship between white people, and fails to recognize the race disparity inherent in that concept.
What YOU are describing is basic manners. Holding a door open for someone? Offering people tissues when they sneeze, or otherwise need one? Yeah, that’s basic politeness for EVERYONE, not some special select code for manly men to protect their dainty maidens.
the cognitive dissonance for these arguments is fucking ridiculous
‘IF YOU GO OUTSIDE UNDERDRESSED YOU SHOULD EXPECT CATCALLS’
‘CHIVALRY!!! MEN JUST WANT TO BE POLITE TO YOU WOMENZ!!’
either you have men attempting to be decently condescending or you have men being slobbing dogs all the time.
you can’t have it both ways
ok, i’m definitely going to mention this for dwfw but the end of the last doctor who episode REALLY PISSES ME OFF
SPOILERS BEHIND THE CUT
Whelp. I think it’s time to unfollow this fucker.
CASUALLY REPOSTING TO SHOW WHY HE SUCKS
Oh, here are some choice tweets from @YourRealWingman recently:
GIRLS Be a slut for your man. Sex all over house. Ride his face at any opportunity. Open legs in public for him #IfYouDontAnotherGirlWill
Hoping all you Real men emptied your sacks all over your ladies this morning & showered them with… Gifts